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4 Sexual Fantasies To Add To Your Sex Bucket List

If you have sexual fantasies you’ve never acted on, don’t worry — you’re definitely not alone. Even the sexually adventurous among us can’t possibly have made it through every possible sexual scenario. There are countless sex positions, locations, kinks, and couplings to explore. So, if you’re looking to get a bit more experienced, then it’s time to sit down and write your sex bucket list.

Just like a regular bucket list — which is a check list of experiences you want to have before you die — a sex bucket list forces you to think about what you really want to do in (and out of) the bedroom. It’s almost guaranteed to make your sex life a little more exciting. Making a list is just the beginning, though. The real fun comes in checking each item off.

Ahead, we’ve rounded up some steamy sexual fantasies to inspire your own sex bucket list — and how to actually make them a reality.

Joining The Mile-High Club

There’s a reason this one is a classic, even though those tiny airplane bathrooms are hardly conducive to getting into a good position. Airplane sex has an element of risk, since flight attendants or your fellow passengers could catch you at any time. Plus, if you’re not traveling with a partner, then it could also mean having hot, spontaneous sex with a stranger.

How to make it happen: Based on people’s real-life experiences, it seems that joining the mile-high club is easiest to do with a partner or friend, rather than a stranger. Most people suggest going to the bathroom for at least a little bit of privacy, but word to the wise: Those little rooms aren’t exactly soundproof.

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Having Sex In A Public Place

Whether it’s in the bathroom at your favorite bar, in a department store dressing room, or behind the bushes on a deserted street, the could-get-caught risk makes public sex way more exciting than your usual romp at home.

How to make it happen: We’re not going to lie, this one is risky. Having sex in public violates public indecency laws in pretty much every state. But if you’re careful, it’s totally possible to pull off and extremely hot. The most important tip, of course, is to choose a place that’s public but not too public. That means finding a bathroom (with a door that locks), or having sex on a balcony, a fire escape, an empty hillside, or on a rooftop… you get the idea.

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Having Sex While Someone Watches

Exhibitionism isn’t for everyone, but some people love the idea of getting it on with a partner while a third person watches (and maybe even masturbates because they find the action so sexy).

How to make it happen: If you live in a city that hosts sex parties, then it’s almost guaranteed that someone will watch. If you can’t attend a sex party, find an adventurous friend who’s willing to join in or put a call out on dating apps. It might take some time to find the right person, but it’ll be worth the wait.

Photographed by Lauren Perlstein.

Channeling Your Inner Anastasia Steele

If you’ve heard of 50 Shades Of Grey, then you have at least some idea of what it means to be submissive (though keep in mind that both the books and movies get a lot wrong about kink). Being a submissive essentially means that the dominant partner has control — with your consent, of course. That can mean the dom ties you up, spanks you, denies you an orgasm, tells you what to say, or any number of other sexual acts.

How to make it happen: If you have a partner, start with a conversation. Telling anyone about your kink can be nerve-wracking, for sure, but open communication with sexual partners is the only surefire way to make sure you’re getting what you want in bed. Consider making a yes/no/maybe list so that both you and your partner are able to talk about what you’re willing (and not willing) to do.

If you don’t have a partner, many sex parties have BDSM sections for people who either want to dominate or be dominated. If the idea of a sex dungeon freaks you out, attend a class or information session for a reputable sex party or kink group in your area.

Photographed by Isa Wipfli.

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