Set a deadline.
Now that you know how to make the conversation happen, it’s time to make the conversation happen. But nerves are hard to battle, so if you’re the type of person who needs a push, go ahead and set a deadline for yourself, Ettin says.
Choose an arbitrary date, and put it in your calendar if you have to. Just don’t keep pushing it off, because it has the potential get more awkward the longer you wait. “People love to make things more difficult than they are,” Ettin says. “Just say what you mean, ask for what you want, and take what you get.”